You get what you expect

I keep reading and hearing that our world is a feeling based universe. Makes sense, as before language, we were just communicating feelings, much like animals.

And I've read, ask for what you want with the feeling of already having received it. So you thank for what you want as if you have it in your hands.

I can see my flawed thinking. I've lived as if what I want is out of reach, the feelings I have on a regular basis are; not yet, or it won't really happen, or oh well, I'd better take what I can get, cause the 'real' thing ain't coming.

Now I can see my 'job' is to catch myself inside of those feelings and chang them to one of prosperity, or 'I have it already and I am grateful".

It's a harder job than I ever thought to catch myself thinking inside scarcity, lack, doubt and worry. That is so common, that's the normal way of thinking. I risk looking foolish, and like a kind of dunderhead with my mind in the clouds. I didn't realize I was so influenced by what others thought of me. Must be something I learned as I've aged, cause I certainly never cared before. Like a gentle snowfall, my worry of what others think of me has crept silently into my thoughts, indistinguishable.

So the phrase "You don't get what you want, you get what you expect" now makes more sense than ever.

Vision and Focus

I had a Great Aunt that was a concert pianist, she 'practiced' her scales on the piano everyday for at least an hour. Then she would begin to really work. She would practice the pieces she was preparing to perform, or challenge herself in playing old pieces. But she was focused on her craft.
I was wondering if we have that kind of focus these days? And can we produce the same results if we don't?
Needless to say my Great Aunt grew up in a time of no TV, or computer or Internet games, so her experience of time was different. But she also grew up in a time of having to work very hard, manual labor was how most people earned their living, and she was an expense for the family being a musician.
So how did she keep focused, and play each day when all around her the pressure to bring in money for the family, and to get married, settle down, stop all this dreaming of being a piano player must have felt insurmountable?
That really is the question each of us must ask each day of ourselves.
Oprah Winfrey has said she asks each night : "Please allow me to provide what you want from me God"
Not just one night a week, every night.
That is a million dollar prayer. A clear focus to provide what is wanted and needed, and you are the vessel through which your vision becomes a reality.
A million dollar prayer will result in a million dollar answer. But like my Aunt it takes practice, persistence, dedication.
I think dedication is something many of us fear. To really dedicate oneself to something, for no apparent reason, or if you will make money at it, just because it fulfills you.
that is true dedication.

Feelings are Good? part 2

So yesterday, I write this blog about how feeling are supposed to be good for you. No less than 60 minutes of posting that blog, I have what I would lovingly call a melt down. I communicated my insecurities publicly and regretted it, spilled my coffee twice, could not find my keys... well, you get the picture.
Some days it feels like all I do is dodge bullets, like this super hero. But my problem is, I'm not a super hero, I do not bend steel in my bare hands or able to leap tall buildings in a single bound to quote the old Superman TV show.
Lately, it just feels like I'm not dodging very well, and getting hit.
I've read over and over, that I'm the one in charge of my feelings, I get to say whether a person 'gets under' my skin or not. And I'm also told that there is a thing called the butterfly effect, that we all are intricately connected. So, how do you remain centered, regardless of the circumstances and interconnectedness of us all? How does that work?

Feelings Are Good?

"You're supposed to to cry, you're not supposed to shove your feelings under the rug." Ellen Degeneres

'Of course, duh! Everybody knows that', I thought when I first read this quote from Ellen Degeneres . But then I asked, wait why do I think I know what she is saying? It started me on a truth telling expedition and I saw how many times I was taught not to express myself. To not be angry or laugh or smile so much. Anyone remember "I'll take that smile off your face." or "I'll give you something to cry about"?
I've been trained to be uncomfortable with extreme emotions, mine as well as others.
I learned early on that emotions were not safe, anytime and anywhere.
That's just silly.
Our universe responds to emotion. Emotions are the vibration we all talk about in the Law of Attraction. So what on earth are we thinking when we suppress our emotions?
Being aware is more important than ever, and different than I ever thought it was. I'm only now begining to get a glimpse of what it means to be self-aware.

Inspiration from Flowers

The first time I ever saw a Bleeding Heart Plant I was walking home from school. I was in 3rd grade. It was a wonderful late spring day, we knew there were only few more days of school then summer vacation. So I was already happy about that. ;)
I walked home with about 10 other kids that lived on my block. I counted, one day, and I realized we had 45 kids from ages 0-16 living on our block. We could always get a game of basketball, touch football, baseball, capture the flag, or kick the can going in an instant.
Well, 10 of us were walking home and I saw some pink flowers dangling from under a bush. They were heart shaped! These beautiful flowers dangling under the deep green leaves were like a special gift. They didn't have a strong perfume smell like most flowers, but they were so delicate and unique.
Each spring, we would watch for that plant to bloom. It was an extra special moment when we could see the hearts.
I wonder if life isn't made up of these tiny beautiful moments. Each one opens our eyes, heart, and breath to the exquisite beauty that surrounds us.
Helen Keller said: "Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows."
It seems to me that in our time a great change, great upheaval, the point is to keep our focus towards the light. Breathe into bringing out the best in you and your family, community, and ultimately that has a chance of changing the world.

Vision is more than sight

"Vision is the art of seeing the invisible" Jonathan Swift author "Gulliver's Travels"

The more I read about how our brains work, how we really learn and develop, the more convinced I am that visualization is key to accomplishment.

I was watching a Doctor talk about how he helped a man relieve severe pain in his phantom arm. Yes that's right phantom arm. We have heard about people who have had arms or legs amputated, and the person still has feelings in that limb. they still experience the limb as present. These people are not delusional, they are fully functional adults, however, their body gives them sensations of the limbs being there.

Well, one man, who lost his arm in a motorcycle accident, was experiencing severe pains in the lost arm. He said he could still feel his hand clutching the motorcycle bar, and he could not let go. His 'hand' would go into spasms.

Now this was quite depressing for the man, as he knew he had no arm there. So how do you treat pain relief for something that isn't there? The nerves get in a loop and keep firing the pain signal, like a broken record, it doesn't stop.

This doctor got an idea. He placed a mirror in a box and had the man put his hand in the box so he could look into the box and see the mirror image of his real hand, giving his brain the image of his 'lost hand'. He told the man to move his hand and unclench his fist. He did and the man experienced the release of his pain.

The man was so grateful. He actually had no pain for three days, but the pain came back. He called the doctor and asked for the box with the mirror to have at home. He now uses it whenever he feels the pain in the lost arm.

So what does this say? Vision is critical. My vision of my success, my contribution to my family, community, and our world is more important than my IQ, degrees, awards, and all that mumbo-jumbo.

Vision is a personal journey. No one can do it for you, although much of the media wants to program us to want what they tell us to want.

Each morning as I wake up and evening as I go to sleep I visualize myself in my perfect career, smiling at my desk, feeling the feelings of accomplishment. Vision is critical!

Receiving

Whatever we are waiting for - peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance - - it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart." Sarah Ban Breathnach

I have heard myself; and a few of my friends say, "Okay! I'm ready to receive NOW...any time NOW....I've given enough NOW, it's time for me to GET."

Yeah, I've said it more than a few times. Funny thing, with that attitude I don't get what I'm looking for. Or if I do get it, I don't recognize it.

For years I was looking for the reincarnated Clark Gable to swoop me off my feet, fall in love with me and ask me to marry him. It never happened. All the time I usually had a great Clark Kent right next to me, but I wasn't in a mind set to receive. I wanted someone else to validate me. And come on, Clark Kent just didn't feel validating. When I could feel my worth, then I was ready to really love someone.


So, what does the mean for me about my dream job?

I keep reading that the universe will respond abundantly to the vibration of whatever I am passionate about, focused upon, committed to, and what I really believe is possible.

"really believe is possible"

I asked myself "what do I really believe is possible?"

I found all sorts of negative thoughts and feelings there. Aha! I thought, like Sherlock Holmes. No wonder!

These negative thoughts and feeling sneak in, they know every crack, and back door through my positive armour. I could feel the truth of how I really think, how I constantly judge and evaluate myself, and how that keeps me from an abundant frame of mind.

Each morning as I wake up, I say over and over, "Thank you" I picture myself having fun at work, feeling fulfilled, joyful at what I am doing. I actually got myself to tears this morning picturing myself in this new capacity.

Well, that's what I've got for today! Thanks for reading along. Love and prosperity to you all

Could it Really Be That Easy?

I read, or study, about 1 hour a day. In all that reading, each author states to get what you want, three things are needed.

1. Focus on what you want
2. Create the feelings of having what you want
3. Take actions consistent with the thoughts and feelings you are creating.

If it is that easy, why do we have so many books written on this material?

Is it our rational mind discounting what we know 'is' and how things 'work' around here?

What if it were that easy? What would that mean? What about all the struggle we have experienced? What of all the pain?

When I ask these qustions with no attachment to how I think things should be, it expands my vision. But not just ask these things once and feel confient I have an answer, but ask these things again, and again.

Day Two

"The first principle of success is desire--knowing what you want. Desire is planting the seed." Robert Collier.

I've read words similar to this for years. "You must know what you want, get clear in your mind what you want."

I thought, many times, that I knew exactly what was being said. "I know" I can hear that little voice in my head say. "Of course, I know, and I know this other thing too......."

Yesterday I asked myself to 'not know', to be willing to allow other answers to come forth. What an interesting day.

I found myself catching assumptions of life and how it works. Things like "It takes time for that to happen, money isn't easy to make, struggle is how it happens."

Wow! Each time I caught myself in that I would simply ask if that was true. I began to question thoughts that were automatic in the area of money.

BTW: one person who reads this blog has thought of me for a job. How cool is that?

An Expereiment for a New Career

"The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to him positive results." Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

I have chosen to get my miracle job, by keeping a clear focus on having already received that job. I will spend 1 hour each day meditating on having gotten the most rewarding job, with people I enjoy working with.

The funny thing is I did this in romance and found the love of my life, my husband Jeff.
So, why not do it in the area of career and finance. Why would somehting work in one area and not another? That doesn't make sense.

Quite an experiment, huh? This will put to a test the notion that middle class people "believe it when they see it, world class people know that they have believed it when they see it." Steve Siebold in "177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class"

Visit my blog often as I live this great experiment. I will keep up with my daily quotes and my experience of them for you.